Raising Kids In A Christian Home When You Didn’t Grow Up In One
Hey there mama! I have something to share with you today. If you are trying to raise your kids in a Christian home, but you did not grow up in a Christian home yourself then I salute you. It’s not the easiest of challenges because your creating new traditions and living off faith that you’re doing it the “right” way. Am I right?
I did not grow up in a Christian home, but we got invited to church by friends a lot. I now know that was God’s way of inviting us to walk with him even when I was a child. My mom was a great socializer so we said YES and visited many different churches. Back then I didn’t realize that these experiences would be a foundation and an example that I would set for my children. INVITING others to walk with you!
I was baptized in 4th grade but I didn’t fully surrender my life to Christ until after high school. When I started having kids I knew I wanted to raise them in a Christian home, but I wasn’t quite sure what that looked like. My husband was raised in a Christian home and was discipled by his parents. As you can imagine this was extremely helpful.
Whether you are raising your kids in a Christian home with experience or not, with a spouse or not, as a single mom or not just know that this is one of your God given purposes! So take a deep breath and thank God for putting this desire on your heart. YOU CAN DO THIS!
Here are some practical tips below on How To Raise Your Kids In A Christian Home!
EQUIP YOURSELF WITH GOD’S WORD
The moment you decide to start raising your kids in a Christian home you put yourself on the enemy’s radar. But don’t let that stop you. Fully equip yourself with God’s word. Let his words armor you in a way that you are fully prepared to step into his purpose for your life as a mother. There is no better gift from the Father himself than to place the desire to raise your kids up in Him on your heart. So listen mama, get deeply rooted in the word and so when the enemy tries to attack, you are ready!
COVER THEM IN PRAYER
This can often be overlooked. Sometimes as parents we think the bigger gestures are the most important, but that’s not always true. Praying for your kids is vital, simple, and it doesn’t cost you anything. Just preaching to your children is not enough! Your words have no power to secure salvation. Your salvation is accomplished in the person and work of Christ alone. Phew didn’t that just take a load off? You can now breathe deep in knowing that this is not all on your hands. While your part is so SO important, it is ultimately in God’s hands. We must meet Him through prayer to give our words power!
Do you ever get stuck on what things to pray for over your children? Here’s a few suggestions….
🙏 pray for their choices
🙏 pray they would know God
🙏 pray they would trust Him
🙏 pray for their salvation
🙏 pray for their future spouse
🙏 pray for their safety
🙏 pray for their protection
🙏 pray for their health
🙏 pray for discernment
🙏 pray for good influences
🙏 pray for courage
🙏 pray for peace
MODEL GOD’S CHARACTER
If we want to raise our kids up in Christ then we must start by modeling His character! No matter how hard we try to be like Him we will always come short because we were born into an ungodly world. We need Him! To be able to model His character we need to know the attributes of his very nature.
There are many attributes of God, but some of the ones I’d like to feature is that He is loving, patient, kind, patient, just, merciful, gracious, forgiving, authentic, fair, loyal, and generous to name a few.
Despite us falling short and even rejecting His authority, God’s character is still faithful to His children. He doesn’t turn away from us or hold grudges. Yet we still struggle with this in our own lives towards others.
So I urge you to look over some of these characteristics again and study the attributes of God on your own or even do a Character of God Bible Study with your family. Meditate on them and the ways that you can practice these in your relationship with your children to become more like Him.
PRACTICE PATIENCE AND FORGIVENESS
Two of God’s characteristics that were mentioned before are patient and forgiveness. These characteristics can oftentimes be difficult to put into practice as parents. It’s not easy to admit that I’m not a patient person, but I’m not and that mixed with raising toddlers is a real life struggle. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve waved the white flag for my own sanity. I’m not saving give up, but showing your children that you are willing to be patient and forgive them is showing them the very nature of Christ.
I’m sure you can think of #mommoments in your life that you aren’t super proud of. Those moments tend to haunt us, but as long as you’re hitting your knees and asking God for forgiveness and to reshape your heart to be more like his you are on the right track! We’ll never be the perfect mom no matter how many Pinterest crafts we do or messes we allow them to create. It’s not about that.
Forgive your kids and often. When you find yourself about to lose it, be mindful, stop and take a deep breath, and channel your inner God like attributes. “How can I be more like Him in this moment?” Becoming a mother who seeks characteristics of God is way more satisfying and fulfilling than being a Pinterest pro.
DISCIPLE YOUR CHILDREN
No matter where you are in your walk with Christ, whether you’re new or seasoned, you can disciple others. Start with your children.
You don’t have to be a know it all, recite the bible by memory, or know all the children’s stories by heart. That’s a lie that we tell ourselves as parents and as women. Learning with your children is one of the greatest memories you will make. They will probably end up teaching you because a childlike faith is unbiased.
Start with simple actions like praying with your children and allowing them to lead in prayer. Buy a family devotional or bible study and do it together. My kids love their bible journals. They use them to describe what they learned on Sundays after church or to copy scripture. Start small so it’s not overwhelming and start now.
Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. Proverbs 22:6
SERVE OTHERS TOGETHER
Serving others is one of God’s commands over our life. We are to serve Him and serve others.
We live in such a selfish world. Allowing your kids to observe you serving others will allow them to see the importance of it. Serving others is a way to practice loving people even when it’s hard and even when they don’t necessarily deserve our love. Again another attribute of God.
When you serve others and allow your children to join in it allows them to focus on something other than themselves. By nature kids think it is all about them. Serving others will teach them so much more about who God is by living out the very task of being His hands and feet.
PRACTICE PRAYER ALL DAY, EVERYDAY
You know that phrase ‘Living on a prayer’ ? Isn’t that what we are all just doing? Living from one prayer to the next and hoping we don’t lose our minds or totally screw our kids up along the way.
As Christians it is so important to practice prayer daily and to always be in a constant state of prayer. I don’t mean literally praying at all times, but always being mindful of God and His presence. He is so SO good and He yearns for us to have a deep relationship with Him.
It is so important for your children to see that you rely on Him. It shows them that we do seek His approval over the decisions we make and that despite what they might believe we are always making decisions ‘for their good.’ So pray! Pray daily and pray often.
GIVE YOURSELF GRACE
Ok sister friend, listen up! As parents we fail and we fail a lot. Turn those failures into lessons. You do not have to have it all figured out. That’s God’s job. Trust and have faith in His plan. Raising your children up in a Christian home is a process. Trust the journey He has you on.
There’s going to be times when you feel like you’ve totally failed, but just as God gives you grace be quick to give yourself some grace as well. Allow yourself to mess it up from time to time because life is messy. It’s part of what makes life so beautiful. We can never be like Jesus, but we can strive to. Keep looking at the cross, seeking Him, and He will meet you right where you are.
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